Why the Digital Third Place Isn't Enough

By Marissa Rotolo

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Your local coffee shop. A church pew. The stoop outside your apartment. These used to be the soul of our social lives. Now? We’re trading them for a 6-inch screen.

The third place refers to an area that is separate from your home (first place) or workplace (second place). A third place could be a café, church, stoop, gym, or the all-too-consuming: our phones.

In the past, third places were especially common. However, the rise of smartphones has contributed to the decline of the third place.

In the U.S., the third place often requires a monetary transaction. Additionally, most places in the U.S. aren’t walkable, which creates a need for transportation. As mentioned before, the use of smartphones limits the cultural expectation for in-person social interaction. All of this contributes to the increasing use of technology as a third place.

The trouble with technology becoming the third place is that it operates in isolation. The third place is a cornerstone of connection, well-being, creativity and innovation. If we rely on technology as our third place, we sign our individualism over to the algorithm.

Algorithms reinforce existing beliefs. If someone engages with a certain type of content, the algorithm continues to push out more radical forms of that content. This results in archetypes and factions. Factions are subsets of larger groups, often defined by ideas that oppose those of another faction. This erodes individualism and encourages polarization.

The digital third place is often placeless — you can talk to anyone, anywhere, but lose connection to your neighborhood, city or cultural rituals. Physical third places root people in shared space, which is crucial for civic trust and community resilience.

So next time you catch yourself in a doomscroll spiral, ask: when’s the last time I lingered in a place that didn’t want my data or my money?